Monday, January 15, 2007

Book Quotes

Since Whitney didn't have to go to school today because of Martin Luther King Jr. Day I had the glorious opportunity to lounge in the cozy reading Mrs. Mike (thanks Lara) until I finished it. I love being able to do that, even if it means starting my day at lunch time. I let Randy take the car today since me and the kids aren't going anywhere, so I'm feeling housebound and happy about it.


Here is my favorite quote from Mrs. Mike.

"These big things, these terrible things, are not the important ones. If they were, how could one go on living? No, it is the small, little things that make up a day, that bring fullness and happiness to a life. Your Sergeant coming home, a good dinner, your little Mary laughing, the smell of the woods--oh, so many things, you know them yourself." page 149

I haven't ever posted quotes (or my thoughts) from The Memory Keeper's Daughter, so I might as well include those in this book post. I really liked the book. I LOVED the first half of the book especially and just couldn't get enough of it. I thought the story was completely engrossing. The second half of the book was something of a let down, but I still liked seeing the progression (or lack thereof) of all the characters. I know some of my book club friends couldn't see why this one event had to destroy the characters' lives, but I didn't have a problem with that and was still into the story. I didn't love the ending, but I don't have an idea for a better one so it doesn't really matter. I think life is really like this. We set out on a certain course and depending on how we respond to the bumps along way our path can become set.

"For Caroline Gill was thirty-one, and she had been waiting a long time for her real life to begin. Not that she had ever put it that way to herself. But she had felt since childhood that her life would not be ordinary. A moment would come--she would know it when she saw it--and everything would change." page 25

"Two sets of friends had already come, one from her sewing circle and another from her china-painting club, filling the refrigerator with food, passing Paul from hand to hand like a trophy. Norah had done these same things for new mothers time and again, and now she was shocked to find she felt resentment rather than appreciation: the interruptions, the burden of thank-you notes, and she didn't care about the food; she didn't even want it."
page 45

"By every external measure he was a success, yet he was never filled, as he hoped to be, with a sense of pride and reassurance." page 148


"Away from the bright motion of the party, she carried her sadness like a dark stone clenched in her palm. He longed to comfort her, but he could think of nothing to say. He wished he had some kind of X-ray vision for the human heart: for Norah's and his own."
page 155

He'd kept this silence because his own secrets were darker, more hidden, and because he believed that his secrets had created hers." page 203

"She had been so young, so lonely and naive, that she imagined herself as some sort of vessel to be filled up with love. But it wasn't like that. The love was within her all the time, and its only renewal came from giving it away." page 247

"Nothing good had ever come to her from waiting." page 251

"Not the life she had once dreamed of, not a life her younger self would ever have imagined or desired, but the life she was living, with all its complexities. This was her life, built with care and attention, and it was good." page 254

"It was as if he'd taken pictures all these years since to try and give another moment similar substance, equal weight. He'd wanted to try and still the rushing world, the flow of events, but of course that had been impossible." page 258

"Paul's life smooth and easy, the fact remained that David had built that life on a lie. He had tried to protect his son from the things he himself had suffered as a child: poverty and worry and grief. Yet his very efforts had created losses David never anticipated. The lie had grown up between them like a rock, forcing them to grow oddly too, like trees twisting around a boulder." page 258

"He had given it up, art and craft, the intricate and exhausting task of trying to transform the world into something else, to turn the body into the world and the world into the body...You can't stop time," he said now. "You can't capture light. You can only turn your face up and let it rain down." page 319

"He realized with a deep sense of shame, that his pity for Phoebe, like his mother's assumption of her dependence, had been foolish and unnecessary. Phoebe liked herself and she liked her life; she was happy. All the striving he had done, all the competitions and awards, the long and futile struggle to both please himself and impress his father--placed next to Phoebe's life, all this seemed a little foolish too." page 390

One of my intentions for this year is to read more and watch less. This has been easy so far this year since all the good shows have been repeats. I love getting into bed after the kids go down for the night because then I can read uninterrupted for a long time and gradually fall asleep. That's one of my very favorite things in life. Up next: Cotton by Christopher Wilson.

**What are your thoughts on these books?
Do you mark quotes in your books?
What are you reading now?**

26 comments:

everything pink! said...

what.. no one has commented yet.. would that mean I am the first. woo hoo woo hoo.
ok now i just have to go back and read what you wrote so i can really comment,
but yes i do mark in my books and write down the quotes, it is really the only way i can remember what a read.

Anonymous said...

Jill--I loved Mrs. Mike. It reminded me of other great books about women on the frontier like Christy and Angle of Repose.

Our book group also read The Memory Keeper's Daughter. It was my pick and I enjoyed the book. It raises so many questions about life. My brother just had a baby with down's symdrome and they view her as a great miracle and blessing in their lives. Both of my adopted children from China were born with birth defects. I am almost sure that is why their biological parents chose to place them in the orphanage. Definitely a lot to think about.

michelle said...

You know, I enjoyed The Memory Keeper's Daughter more once I had finished it. As I looked back, I could see why he did what he did -- I still didn't like his decision and thought it was tragic the way it had a domino effect on everyone involved, but I could understand it better. As Collette said, it was fascinating to see all that followed from one decision made wrong.

Sometimes I underline my books, sometimes not, it depends on my mood and how cozy I am in bed! I'm finishing up The Chili Queen and trying to decide what to read next.

Anonymous said...

I read The Memory Keepers Daughter last fall. I really enjoyed the book overall and one of the overlying themes of the book to me was the affect that deception and lies had on a marriage and family.

I picked the book up in an airport bookstore after seeing that it was endorsed by two authors that I like: Sue Monk Kidd and Jodi Picoult. Jodi Picoult wrote a beautiful and thought provoking book called My Sisters Keeper. (**Fair Warning- language in My Sisters Keeper is really rough, meaning frequent use of the "F" word in spots, and you will need a box of kleenex if you read it).

Anonymous said...

I'll have to put Mrs. Mike on my list. I am not sure I would have picked it up based on the title, so I love that you share your book finds here. I read The Memory Keeper's Daughter this summer. I picked it up at the bookstore knowing nothing about it, but I loved the title and the white dress on the front. I really enjoyed it, but like you - wasn't satisfied with the ending. I almost felt like the author just got tired of writing it, and thought oh, this is getting long, better wrap it up. I thought everything else was so slowly and carefully developed, and the ending just seemed so sudden and unsatisfying.

I haven't ever marked books before, but I think I might start - I lose things too easily in my mind, and I really enjoyed reading the quotes you highlighted again.

Bridget said...

I think maybe I need to try that (marking down quotes). I love to read and read a lot, but then someone will ask me about a book and I forget. That's why I'm afraid to join a book club. Need to get over that fear.

amy gretchen said...

I loved this:

"She had been so young, so lonely and naive, that she imagined herself as some sort of vessel to be filled up with love. But it wasn't like that. The love was within her all the time, and its only renewal came from giving it away." page 247

It resonates with me so much right now. Thank you for always sharing your awesome quotes. It sounds like a book I would like to read, but am a bit taken back by your lack of enthusiasm for the end.

Jill said...

I think the book is definitely worth reading. It's not like the end makes no sense or anything.

Anonymous said...

**What are your thoughts on these books? once again..still no reading of "real books"! hehe

Do you mark quotes in your books? no i tend to like them neat and clean..

What are you reading now?**US weekly and the O magazine- thanks amie!

Amie said...

Yea, Kristi's picture is back.

Did you like Mrs. Mike? I am curious. I do mark quotes when I read. I almost bought the Memory Keeper's Daughter but wanted to clear it with your first (in October). I still haven't read it but it sounds like I should put it on the list.

I am reading the first of the books we talked about by Jan something about the preacher? I can't remember the name. It's ok, I am not hooked to where I can't put it down though - I love those books.

Anonymous said...

Ah! Mrs. Mike was the first book I read as an adolescent that wasn't a kiddie book, it made me feel so grown up reading a love story. And I love to re read it every year, it is such a favorite! I saw there is a sequel this many years later but it didn't get very good reviews.

I look forward to reading Memory Keepers Daughter after all these recommendations.

Jessica said...

i read this book back in august and literally couldn't put it down until i was done. i thought it was heartbreakingly sad, but i still liked it. of course i was hoping all along that he would finally tell the truth and that things could be resolved between them, but most of the time life doesn't have perfecet endings, and this was probably the only way the story could have played out among the characters.

i really liked the portrayal of david, because as wrong as it was for him to tell the lie, i think the author painted a really clear picture of WHY he did it. and i think of all the characters, his was the one i felt the most sorry for throughout the story.

sorry this is so long! but i did really like this book and have never really had the chance to discuss it. so thanks for posting about it.

Anonymous said...

I am a big library patron and the downside is not being able to mark up the books.
I love the quote about nothing good comes from waiting. I do a little too much waiting around.

Anonymous said...

I enjoyed this book - just couldn't put it down in the beginning! I do underline my books - which makes it interesting if you loan it out to someone - but most of my markings are in parenting books. No one seems to want to borrow those as much! :-) I do like how you highlight particular quotes in the book!

Anonymous said...

I am actually reading the memory keepers daughter right now. I am terrible about reading at night, because I fall asleep so quickly when reading. I am about half way though and seem to enjoy it this far. I guess that is why it takes me FOREVER to get through books.

I love that you mark quotes, I haven't ever done that. But I think it's a good way to remember why you liked or didn't like a book you read.

Anonymous said...

I really, really liked Mrs. Mike! I haven't read the other one yet, but I've contemplated reading it. I don't always mark in my books, it sort of comes and goes for me. I do sometimes take notes on separate paper though. Right now I've got several books going.

Anonymous said...

I'm a definite book marker. I can never borrow books because of this...always have to buy & use my own. Marking helps me clarify, sort & remember.

Loved Mrs. Mike, but it has been 10+ years since reading it, so the details are fuzzy.

I felt the same way about The Memory Keeper's Daughter. It brought up some interesting ideas, but all the sorrow seemed so unnecessary. You see that happen in real life though...all too often. I wanted to take the characters & shake sense into them physically.

jenn said...

I liked The Memory Keeper's Daughter better after finishing the last 18 pages and our discussion. I still hate what the "dad" did, but found the story intriguing.

Yep- I mark 'em up! I crack the spine. I don't abuse my books, but they are well loved!

Anonymous said...

Hi Jill,
I've never posted here before but I couldn't hold myself back because I've been wanting to write about how I felt about the Memory Keeper's Daughter.
I have a brother with Down Syndrome and people don't realize that people like him were cast out and put into institutions up until the 1970-80's when the taboo of having a retarded child was somewhat addressed. My Mom worked for a company that took care of many retarded people who went through the institution systems and they were abused to say the very least. So many people have missed out on the pain, joy, and hardwork one goes through raising a Down's child.
It isn't a piece of cake having a retarded member of the family. We have moved for my brother (just so he could attend a good school) and my Mom went against doctor's advice to not "burden" her family with the responsibility of taking care of him (I know everyone's family handles things differently) but my brother has never been a burden to me. We have to make sure he washed properly, shave him, hold his hand up steep stairways, wait on him if he refuses to walk, etc. Yet I love him and he has been "my little sweetie" since he was an adorable child.
I've changed, my parents changed, extended family changed because of him. It was so poignant to me to read the short passages about her twin brother and how complete he felt with her personality complimenting his. I just felt it was so well rounded very realistic. Simple joys for one family with tremendous hurdles to jump. And deep sorrow for a family with everything except their "burden". Oh I could go on and on but I won't.

Laurie said...

I'm working my way closer to being able to get back into really reading by finishing up books that I started and need to just wrap up. I'll have to read Mr. Mike. I like to mark up my books.

melanie said...

I have looked at The Memory Keeper's Daughter many times, now I think I'll buy it. I want to read Mrs Mike too. I love frontier books.

I love that you mark quotes in your books. Something I need to do more of, it is hard to find the quote you wanted after the fact.

Anonymous said...

I am so behind on your blog- it hasn't been refreshing for me. Argh...

I love the "She had been so young, so lonely and naive..." quote- just kinda hit me.

I love and really appreciate that you mark and share so many quotes from books. I used to be good about marking up my books but it just seems like it means I have to get un-cozy or lose my momentum to stop and take notes. It only bothers me when I read all the fantastic quotes you post and then I think of the things that stood out to me that I wouldn't be able to find now.

I am reading Snow Flower and the Secret Fan, Brick Lane, and Ice Limit. Brick Lane is taking me some time to get into- but the Secret Fan one is flying.

Anonymous said...

I think I've already commented about both of these books on your blog but in the spirit of commenting....:P

Mrs. Mike - beautiful, romantic, sad, heroic. A wonderful story for a wife and mother to read.

Memory Keeper's Daughter - the more time that passes since I read this the less I like it. I just think the characters were all a little blah and too focused on their own sadness. I think after a lifetime of that, it would have been hard to turn it around like they supposedly did at the end. But I liked it more immediately afterwards. Maybe I'm talking myself out of it.

Anonymous said...

I have Memory Keeper's Daughter waiting (along with many others) to be read, it may have moved up the pile now! I don't mark up my books because if I like a book, I read it again and again. It's like rediscovering the book to me, and I get something different everytime. If the book is marked, I tend to focus only on that.

Anonymous said...

I read The Memory Keepers Daughter in a hotel room and didn't leave until I finished!(literally) It was a page turner for me, obviously, but I was also frustrated by the characters!

Outside looking in -seeing this family fall apart piece by piece really upset me. I can't describe it. It was a very intriguing story.

Wow! you really listed a ton of quotes!! Gotta love quotes!-ciao

Anonymous said...

I had never marked by books until recently, thanks to your influence.

I just bought the Memory Keepers Daughter and a book by Patricia Cornwell, maybe not as thought provoking but by trade she is a forensic pathologist and puts alot of that into her writing. I love it.