So this meant that I had my arms full of 2 bags of m&ms's, 16 candy bars and a package of bacon. I didn't think anything of it and got in line behind a really old lady who kindly said I could go in front of her. Then she pointed to the stash of "food" in my arms and gestured as if to say "what's going on here?" I laughed and said, "It's not for me!!" and then she said, "Are you sure?"
It wasn't until I was standing in line for a minute or two that I realized how rude her question was, but I'm choosing not to be offended. She was seriously old and was kind enough to let me go in front of her, so surely she wasn't meaning to call me a fat cow right?
**Does stuff like this happen to you
or am I the lucky one?**
or am I the lucky one?**
32 comments:
Oh dear.
I'd chalk it up to "trying to make conversation that didn't come out right." At least I've made more than one comment that didn't sound like I'd intended and had to tell myself, "Stop. Say no more. Don't try to fix it. Quit digging, even though it sounded terribly shallow, you'll only dig a pit if you keep going."
What lucky primary kids and women you visit teach...the lady obviously doesn't know about your generosity or she'd have packed another couple of bags of candy on top of your load!
I am DYING! This is just too funny. I am so glad you posted this tonight and didn't wait for tomorrow.
I get comments of this sort- where you hope it just came out the wrong way but wonder. I choose to be hard to offend for a reason!
I was at Macey's twice today and avoided those 4/$1 candy bars, but it was HARD.
That's laugh out loud funny. It's not often that you go through a line with bacon and loads of candy, but then to have someone say something as if it's your dinner and dessert! Geesh. I get the most disapproving looks from older women when my kids are doing something less than wonderful in the store (like trying to stand up in the cart). It makes me wonder if we are doomed to get cranky with old age.
Every time John goes through the line with a bunch of baby food (when we use it we tend to buy tons at one), the checkers would often look at John strangely because he looks so young and he's buying tons of baby food. They give him questioning looks so John goes with it and says, "Yeah, I can't get enough of the stuff. It's so good!" They believe him and he walks away laughing.
Oh, old ladies!
Ugh -- this happened to me once last year at Christmas time. I had bought a bunch of candy (I blogged about this, too!) to make treats with my girls and some of their friends. The cashier asked if I needed help out, I said no, and then she gave me this judgy up and down leer and asked if I needed help with my candy. I have avoided her line ever since! Those kinds of comments are just bad.
My mouth has dropped wide open.
Bad old lady, Bad!
Whenever they have those sales on candy bars, I stock up for my piano student treats. I always feel so embarrassed! Come to think of it, the conveyor belt is always full of junk whenever I go to Macey's, that's one reason I tend to avoid it! I hate feeling like I have to explain to the cashier...
I want to be in your primary class!
That's hilarious! I agree-laugh out loud funny. Maybe she was trying to be funny, make a little lighthearted joke!
I often load up on junk food (lately) and feel like I need to explain, except I don't have an explanation. I guess I could say: 'Yep. It's all for me. I might let her (Bella) have some if she catches me eating it. Otherwise, yep. All for me.'
Yikes! It is my belief that old ladies always say the darndest things and usually it comes out sounding rude! Take it from me, you are not the only one who gets strange comments like that!
By the way, I've done the same thing before, thinking I wouldn't need a cart and then being so loaded down it was laughable. I went in to get some ice cream, and ended up with 2 liter bottles of root beer and ice cream, it was quite precarious and I got some funny looks!
what i want to know is... what do you think she thought when you whipped out your camera and took a photo of it all!!
Yikes! I don't think she was thinking of what words were coming out of her mouth.
Yes I can relate to your shopping experince. I made 2 trips my self yesterday. The girl at the check out asked me on the 2nd trip "If I found every thing I needed?" I had hoped I had until we made 3rd trip with hubby along for batteries and some bacon also.We were making BLT's. I prayed like mad that the same checker was gone. Sure enough her shift must have ended because she was gone.
oh boy.. sorry.. I hope when I am old I don't let things like that come out of my mouth!
I have done that a few times myself. After unloading my cart I realized it was ALL junk food for various things. Funny that she asked you that. I always try and justify to the checker that "it's not for me...I promise!"
how rude!
I hate comments like that & it always takes me a few minutes at least to realize I have been insulted.
I'm sure she was just kidding around but still...
Like Lelly I wonder what she thought of the picture!
That's a hard situation to be in. I'm sure she didn't mean it that way but it would be difficult not to be offended. Sorry that happened. :(
I don't explain things. In fact, I take a little pleasure in letting people think whatever they want. I probaby would have answered the lady with something like, "You never know when you'll need something sweet."
Ha! Yes, stuff like this happens to me and it usually makes me cry (although never in front of the person who said it!) People are just too funny...what ever happened to minding your own bussiniess??
I like what Lelly said! :)
So good that you chose to not take this in the wrong way. I've had 2 recent embarrassing encounters at Albertson's. I was beginning to wonder if I'm not suited for the grocery store.
She probably was just jealous because those treats would harm her dentures and upset her diverticulitis or something.
Your primary kids are so lucky and you are very thoughtful. Don't let anything anyone says make you crazy.(See, I'm the pot talking to the kettle :))
Ouch! Seriously, why do people fee they have to say something? I mean even if they were for you!
Once while shopping with Ellie I have hotdogs and turkey sausage in my hand to put into the cart. A woman comes up to me and says "I just can't bring myself to buy that type of stuff, it is filled with nitrates and artifical ...blah blah blah," she just kept talking and can't remember it all.
I was taken by surprise but managed a "Well somedays it is a choice b/w nitrates or no protein at all so I pick my battles"
I was so angered the more I thought about it and the more I shopped. Did she not see the overflowing produce in the cart? the whole grains? Then I was even more mad at myself for wasting time on her comment and justifying my cart.
old people say the funniest things. Maybe that's why I like them so much...they have absolutely no filter. I guess their the only ones that could get away with it.
Oh, ill-executed old-lady teasing, I'll say.
And not even original - when I pick up 2 HUGE stuffed burritos for me and Jer, the guy nearly ALWAYS asks if they are both for me (I usually eat 1/2 in a sitting). I laughed the first time.
I can't believe anyone would say that. Good grief.
Yikes. When Kelly had her grocery store issues last year I remember thinking that I supposed I might be grumpy at folk if I was behind a cash register all day.
No excuse.
Just. Too. Funny.
Good job choosing not to be offended! Such a hard choice.
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I have the hardest time keeping a straight face with stuff like that (oh yeah it's happened to me). I want to either laugh at their bluntness or be rude right back, even if that's not what they meant!
Dear oh dear. No one can surely be that blatantly rude, can they? I'm sure she just said it as 'something' to say back to you - but it's a very 'grey' comment, isn't it? Did you read Michelle A's blog recently? She had a woman make a very dubious comment to her as well. Eeeek, which one of us is next???
I'm sure she's nice - at least for giving up her place in the queue - but it's annoying to mull over little things like this. As if you haven't enough to do, without fretting about 3 little words!
Ken always wonders if the cashier analyzes what we buy at the grocery store. Like does she think, "That spinach isn't going to make up for all those bite sized brownies . . . "
I have the opposite problem, they are all for me but I pretend (in my head) that they aren't!!!! Oh, let them think what they want, I'm glad you aren't taking offense to it.
hey you should have offered one of those and said something like, here I hope your denture can handle it....just kidding..... I love butter fingers, but I haven't had the crip ones...are they good.?
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