Saturday, May 15, 2010

Mother vs. Daughter--Soccer Edition

Last Saturday was our final game of the spring soccer season (it went way too fast). We'd had 2 games a week for 4 weeks, so it felt like we were ending right after we started...maybe because we did. At this last game, I gave Randy the camera and told him to "take a lot" so it was fun to see what he ended up with.


Whitney's cheesy grin, apparently she's more cooperative when Randy's got the camera than when I do.


This is a photo of the girls swarming me all begging to play certain positions. It's hard to think clearly when they're all begging to play, but with my trusty clip board I keep track of what positions they play and how long they're in the game.


My clipboard system.


They're cute self-portrait...I just noticed their teeth are exactly the same shape, who knew?


Half-time oranges.


Whitney was very happy my mom made it to her last game. It was particularly nice of her to do that because it meant scrambling to get ready for the day in order to make it on time from freakin Eagle Mountain.


I don't think they had pink-striped cleats when I was a kid, but I would have loved these.


Whitney spent much of the season arguing with me over which position she should play. She wants to be a Forward so she'll be more likely to score, but she's more talented as a Defender or Goalie. She finally listened to me during this game and willingly played those positions. This is an action shot of her as goalie, you can see the ball in the air as she did a mighty throw. I tried over and over to teach her about the importance of working together as a team and going where your team needs you to go, she would agree with me then say, "But I want to be a Forward." Aargh!


We actually had one game where she had tears of frustration and fury when I moved from Forward to Defender. It was so bad that I had to yank her out of the game just a minute after putting her in. Luckily Randy was there that night and able to talk to her on the sidelines, but it was most unpleasant and made me reconsider the "good" I'm doing by being one of her coaches. I may not sign up to help next season, we'll see.



We posed for a team photo after the game, but it was one of those situations where 3 cameras were going at the same time and everyone looked at a different one.

**Any advice about this "issue"?
Do you like her cleats?**

Comment Window Tidbit: We had a super productive Saturday and I loved it! The weather was perfect (70 degrees), and we made progress on the garage, the weeds and our cars. I am filthy and tired...both good signs of a productive day.

11 comments:

Amie said...

Super cute cleats.

I think it would be a struggle for me to coach Jessica... it always seems like the coaches' kids get the bum deal. That's a dumb comment to leave because it needs a lot of explaining but I am going to anyway (it has nothing to do with how great it is for you to be involved and giving of your time).

Everything passes too quickly! I really hate that part of life. Why can't it be slow and leisurely... enjoying all....?

jenn said...

It's hard to find the line of involvement and independence in mother/child relationships. I feel more and more like my place is at home and my kids do better when I cheer instead of push, which is hard because I'm a pusher! (That does not sound right.)

Yes. I totally love the cleats!

Ashley said...

You are a good coach--I would want you working my kids. Whitney and Randy are cute together--funny that it took the self-portrait to reveal their twin teeth!

And a big yes to pink cleats!

Kim Sue said...

I haven't done the coaching thing because of that very reason but Kenny has coached baseball last year and assisting this year. His aggrevation is kids who don't pay attention and don't really show a desire to get better. I frequently volunteer for crowd control type help but the older they get the less of that type help is needed.

brooke said...

I feel your frustration every time I either coach or teach a primary class my kid is in. Why do kids act differently for their parents? Frustrating. You are a great coach.

Love the self portrait with Randy and Whitney. So nice of your mom to come to the games. My parents do not do this and it kind of hurts sometimes. I wish they knew how much it would mean to my son to have them there.

michelle said...

Randy got some great shots! I like being able to see you in action.

It's always hard when you're in a separate position of authority over your kids, whether as a coach or a teacher. They just don't want to listen to us in that capacity. We seem to go in waves of the kids feeling cooperative about that and not around here.

I just read Brooke's comment and felt sad. Your kids are lucky to have grandparents that participate!

Liz said...

I am so glad I'm not a soccer coach! So much work, so little praise. :)

I have to ask, the little girl on the left on Whitney in the picture, does she belong to Shawn and Cindy Searle? Cindy is one of my really good friends from BYU days, and this little girl looks alot like their daughter.

Jill said...

Yes Liz, that's Alexa Searle!

Michelle said...

Poor you and Poor Whitney. It probably doesn't help her "Forward" desires when she has a big brother that scores all the time....

I think it is amazing that you coach - I think she secretly loves it.

Randy did a good job with pictures. Love the cleats.

Becky said...

Sounds like you had a great Saturday! I love super productive days.

There are a lot of times with my Brisa that sound like your issue with Whitney...pretty much that's when I turn it over to Jeff because it's just better for everyone that way.

Good luck!

Rebekah said...

This is the same reason why my mother wouldn't allow me to be in her kindergarten class! I thought it was SO rude of her :). Too funny.