As the bishop talked to us (he based his talk on Dr. John Lund's teachings) he pointed out that all frustration stems from having unmet expectations and that we must do a better job of communicating and managing our expectations (this is easier said than done of course).
He said it's important to learn to distinguish between goals and wishes.
A goal is something that depends only upon you and is something you can control.
A wish is something that depends upon someone else.
This was interesting for me to hear because I have a very active wish list in my head and not a very long list of goals. Apparently I need to really take charge of me and stop wishing for other people to supply my happiness. Dang it.
Do not confuse Love and Trust. Trust is earned through responsible behavior. Do not confuse unconditional love with enabling behavior. Do not judge. Love, teach, testify.
What if your family and your spouse do not appreciate you?
--You can go to our Heavenly Father in prayer and ask him to accept your offering to your family and your spouse. Ask Him for his acceptance and feel His love.
We learn to love and bless the lives of others, not necessarily because they are good, or they deserve it, but because we are disciples of Christ and He asked us to do it. (I love this!)
**Thoughts??**
Comment Window Tidbit: They announced that they will be realigning most of the wards in our Stake next Sunday which means we'll be losing part of our ward next week...cue the tears!
8 comments:
There are so many great points here! Thank you for sharing!
goal and wish...great point. I find myself wanting to set goals for others around me!
I LOVE THIS POST. Thank you! So much of it is completely, totally applicable to me in my life right now. I wish I could've been in your meetings today; we had great meetings, also.
Have great week, friend.
What a cool topic. Our 5th Sundays have been about missionary work for all the last ones I can remember. A worthy topic, but I would love to mix it up with something like this.
Did you go to your party?
Oh, I hate it when the ward boundaries change! It always ends up being fine, but it's painful for awhile.
I had to chuckle when I read about your ward goal. Not only because it sounds hard to do, but how do you quantify love at home?
Goals vs. wishes. Those thoughts are definitely interesting. I tend to have more wishes, too, wishing others would change. Rats.
I like the direction of this post. One thought: When we are frustrated by unmet expectations, it is usually because we are being self-absorbed and only worrying about us. If we are living the gospel, we are thinking of others first. Charity and service solves the problem
Oh wow! This is incredible! Love it!
Beautiful message. Has me rethinking my expectations.
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