Today I feel like I need to constantly repeat "I feel good, I feel great, I feel wonderful" over and over again because there are forces at work on me trying to sabotage my efforts to improve. Fortunately this morning I made it to the gym (victory is mine!) because I took my own advice and remembered that it's easier to get up and go than to negotiate reasons for not going and then to feel bad about it later. Woohoo.
The thing is that I usually come home from the gym happy and ready to meet the day head-on, but for some reason today I felt irritable (it's not even PMS, though it sure feels like a good imitation). I had to work hard to be sweet with the kids this morning when all they were doing was being themselves. Whitney and I had a bit of a scene when I was failing to do her hair the way she wanted it done, she actually said, "You don't understand anything!" I did NOT respond well to this, especially because I was physically overheated (post-shower heat, I hate that) and am lousy at doing her hair. I sent her to her room and sent myself to my room too and then attempted her hair again 10 minutes later. She ended up happy with it, but I felt like such a chump for getting flustered over something so stupid.
I've been trying not to hassle Whitney all the time about her constant messes, and this has proven to be quite a challenge. I'm sick of always pointing out all the things she needs to pick up, hang up, clean up, and all of that yet I find myself spotting 10 items each time I enter the same room as her. It's maddening. I didn't say anything about her messes for 4 whole days (unprecedented!) and then last night during FHE we were giving the kids their good behavior marbles for the week and Whitney didn't earn any for cleaning and I asked her if she noticed that I hadn't been reminding her and she said "No" and wasn't even flustered about getting 7 fewer marbles than Landon. !$#@? Seriously, what how am I supposed to get through to this girl? I may have to go back to nagging because at least then things are clean. Ha.
My mood level today is a 6 out of 10, grrrr.
**What's your mood level today?
Do you hate unaccounted for grumpiness?
Can you do hair?
Do you have to repeat a mantra over
and over again to get through the day?**
Do you hate unaccounted for grumpiness?
Can you do hair?
Do you have to repeat a mantra over
and over again to get through the day?**
24 comments:
I am grumpy because I am scouring bathrooms today- which I HATE! I can't do hair- my children always look like rag-a-muffins even though I swore they wouldn't. And the icing on the cake is- Monday is early out. Lovin' Life.
Baby steps, Jill, baby steps!
Oh, today was suppose to be back to school day, but we had a snow day instead. Normally I like snow days, but the kids are just sick of each other! So my mood has been... referee-ish. I have mediated fights all day long and frankly, I'm tired.
I can do hair, but that is to be expected, considering I have four daughters. I better be able to do hair by now; my oldest is 16.
My mantra is "Life Is Good." I have it all over my house to remind me.
Everyone has those days. Sometimes it clears the air for the next day. Good luck tomorrow!
You know I have one like that too that isn't bothered in the least when they don't get what the other two do. It's a bit frightening and very frustrating.
Your "what about bob" comment cracked me up. I feel there are days where I'm saying that same thing over again just to get me through. Glad I'm not the only one on the edge at times.
Poor you! My usual mantra is to sing at the top of my voice: 'If you're happy and you know it, clap yer hands!' - and then stand motionless with my arms aloft. Erin thinks I'm short-circuiting a bit when she sees me do that.
And she'd be right!
I keep E's hair in a bob, specifically to avoid the early morning plaiting thing. I'm lucky she's still not 'discovered' braids and beads! *fingers crossed*
To cheer you up, more Catherine Tate:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCpYVieI2CE
Cometh the hour, cometh the man.
You need a hug from the IB!
I LOVE 'What About Bob!'.
'Some days are like that, even in Australia' (from 'Alexandra and the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day).
Sorry TYPO that's 'Alexander'
I think it must be the winter blahs setting in. The same thing happens to me every year at the point when the snow is muddy on the side of the road, my car is continually dirty, and I run out of windshield wiper fluid on a biweekly basis. How can anyone be happy in that?
CLASSIC! "What about Bob"! One of our all time favorites around here. Hang in there..."baby steps".
"Is this corn hand shucked?"
Sorry for the funky day! Hopefully tomorrow will be a better one.
Where did you get that cute striped rug in Whitney's room? Cute, Cute, Cute!
You crack me up! I know I shouldn't laugh...but just can't help it! I have a mess maker at my house too and it drives me crazy!!! And we have PLENTY of hair arguments at our house. I can do my girls hair in the ways I like it to be....however, they always want things I just do not like (like side ponytails). They are into hte barbie movies and always want their hair like the princess..who is a cartoon with mounds of hair! We have many heated mornings over my inability (or just lack of desire) to copy the hair styles of cartoons!!
I'm nervous to type that I had a good day---Ok, but yesturday was tough I promise!!!!! Ha!
I actually made a good start with organizing my closet-even with my two little ones everywhere!
Tomorrow will be bighter!!!
My mood level today is not good. I have mastitis and feel awful, but, ym neighbor took Evie all afternoon and I got a nap and I feel very blessed by that, so that improves things. I feel like I am bad at doing Evie's hair and that she always looks like a rag-a-muffin, that with her crossed-eye and I think she looks like she has a sloth for a mom...
I was actually okay in the grumpiness today. But let it be known I wasn't around my kids for the past 4 days either.
I can do hair so/so. I actually really enjoy doing it. Unfortunately Taylor has become her own hair stylist. Which I don't really like.
Hang in there. Kids all go through different phases. Love those sheets--super cute!
It is so nice to hear that someone else struggles with messy children who don't care! Ugg, I was in a mood this morning because the kids had told me they did their sat chores when they really didn't. I kind of unleashed on them. I hate that but couldn't help myself. I can't do girls hair either. I usualy get, "why can't you do hair like Krista"? SHe is my friend who knows how to do anything and everything with her girls hair.
Hope your day gets better for tomorrow. My did get better after I made the kids do their chores right after school.
I'm sorry you had a bad day. Don't worry we all get freebie bad days every now and then. I can do hair but my 9 year old won't let me touch her hair 90% of the time. I have to grit my teeth to keep from saying something and....that same 9 year old is so messy I don't know how she is going to survive in life. It doesn't phase her one bit either!! I soooo know how you feel!!! BTW my Mom always said you either have the "clean gene" or you don't!" great!
Oh THE hair thing. It is a daily ritual here with Luci, and she usually ends up in tears 10 minutes before the bus leaves for school, screaming "But I just want my hair to be beautiful!!!!" at us. Kim always tells her with a sigh, "It looks the same today as it always does."
I had the grumps today but I felt it was totally justified. I was all happy to be at work, as usual, then my CEO assigned a grant for me to write and I felt like #@%*! I am having surgery on my right hand in less than 2 weeks. Nothing like putting a rush on an assignment, right! I am a planner and like to be on top of things so having a big assignment given unexpectedly before my thoughtfully planned/timed surgery was not what I wanted.
But I am thinking YAY to you for going to the gym and I am glad to know all moms battle about hair and messes.
Luci received her package from Whitney today and was thrilled. She had a gymnastics meet tonight and her thinking is that W. timed the holiday package to arrive on her meet day so somehow she thinks Whitney knew to plan that. Luci cracks me up - so bright yet so just a kid!!
I've read a few suggestions on this blog http://www.laragallagher.com/blog/index.html about how she got her daughter to keep her room clean without nagging. Maybe reading some of her ideas could help! (I think her key was to just get rid of a lot of stuff, so her daughter didn't have so much to pick up!)
I CAN DO HAIR!
I love to do my girl's hair & it really bothers me when their hair is a mess, even though my hair is almost always a mess.
The messy room thing- wow it's so tough. I honestly gave up on it. But don't give up jill- whitney is still young, you've got hope.
I was a HUGE mess of a kid, especially as a teen, so I guess I deserve the frustration I gave my own mom. I'm not a bad housekeeper now I ALWAYS have a clean room & make my bed- so even if she doesn't grow out of it at home there's still hope.
I love your blog :)
I'm horrible at doing hair. My poor daughter, although she prefers that I don't touch her hair anyway.
I love the What about Bob theme. True, true. Yes, a mantra helps on days like these.
I am dying over Becca's comment about not being able to replicate the cartoon princess hair!! I am terrible with hair, and I hate it. Now that I have a little girl, I want her to have cute hair! But I am hopeless so far, can't even get a straight part. Maybe I should check a book out of the library?
I had to giggle over you and Whitney needing simultaneous time-outs. Sometimes I think I need time-outs way more than my kids do. Some days just seem to call out for a mantra. Hope you won't need one today!
You asked, I can't do my hair. It needs to be cut. My house looks like a tornado has gone through it. Frankly I feel lonely for friends and have already broken one of my first goal of the new season. I have shared to much!
Better day's ahead for all! I just know it.
I am not grumpy... I don't know a word for my mood. I am out of my usual sorts.
I am decent with hair. Unless it is my own. I feel like I am in costume and everyone knows it when I try to do something new.
Maybe I need a mantra.
Jill, you and I are in the same boat. I am sick of being the "NAG", but if I don't nag, than nobody does anything. Argh! What to do!??! I need to relax I guess. But I like a clean house too! Good luck!
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